It’s incredibly common to comfort yourself with food when you’re feeling lonely, anxious, or stressed, but overeating never makes you feel better.You need to create new habits by starting small and not putting too much pressure on yourself, two registered dietitians explained to Insider.Once you start, and ensuring you don’t try to change too much at once, it’ll kick off an upwards spiral.It’s imperative to be kind to yourself in the process though — forming healthier habits takes time and progress isn’t linear.Read more Working it Out here.Visit Insider’s homepage for more stories.
Dear Rachel,For the past few months in lockdown I’ve found myself overeating more and more, which I think is due to loneliness and anxiety. I find my colleagues and work quite depressing, and so my mood has really dropped. Having always been a healthy and active person, I’ve been surprised by how this new situation has changed my habits — it’s happened gradually but I’m definitely now comfort eating to the point of feeling ill most evenings, as a reaction to being a bit low, lonely, and bored. Every few days I tell myself I’ll get back into my old healthy habits and stop mindlessly stuffing myself with crappy food, but it never lasts long. It’s a bit of a vicious cycle. Please help!— Anxious OvereaterDear Anxious,
Firstly, please know you’re definitely not alone, both in terms of feeling anxious and lonely, and overeating as a result. It’s incredibly common, particularly during times of flux.I’m also really sorry to hear you’re feeling this way and not enjoying your work. It sounds like you’re in a really tricky situation, which I hope you can improve soon.From a diet side of things, I have every faith that you can take control and start feeling better.I can definitely relate to you on some level — I’ve always been someone whose natural instinct is to turn to food when stressed or nervous, and it’s really hard to change your habits.
You can do it though. Speaking from personal experience, I know that through a lot of self-reflection, it’s possible to develop a healthier relationship with food and stop overeating because of how you feel.Your mental and physical health go hand in handAs a society, we’ve typically placed more emphasis on staying healthy physically rather than mentally, but the reality is that the two are extremely connected and equally important.”We are living in unprecedented times at the moment and many of us are feeling both lonely and anxious,” registered dietitian Nichola Ludlam-Raine told Insider.
“Many of us are also using food as a coping tool which is neither right nor wrong — what we don’t want though is the foods that you are having to make you feel worse.”
A post shared by Nic Ludlam-Raine UK Dietitian (@nicsnutrition)May 2, 2020 at 11:39pm PDT Ludlam-Raine recommends the website NHS One You to help you address your feelings and find an alternative coping strategy.”They have whole sections on managing anxiety and low mood as well as sleep, which will give you something to focus on,” she said.And then it’s a case of eating to make yourself feel genuinely better, not worse.
“If you’re not taking care of your mental health, you’re going to have a hard time prioritizing your physical health,” Alix Turoff, registered dietitian and nutrition consultant, told Insider.”That said, if you do feel better about how you’re eating, you’ll notice that your mood tends to improve as well. The hardest part is starting. The motivation to jump back in to your healthy habits might not be that strong right away and that’s normal!”Making a change can be daunting, so it’s really important you start small. And once you do, you’ll likely want to carry on.”What you’ll find is that once you start taking action, your motivation to keep going actually picks up,” said Turoff.
“If you’re telling yourself that you want to make a change but when it comes time to do it, you find yourself not wanting to, you might be putting too much pressure on yourself to make things perfect.”
A post shared by Alix Turoff MS, RD, CPT (@alixturoff_rd)Jan 7, 2020 at 2:37pm PST Ludlam-Raine agrees that it’s paramount not to put too much pressure on your self to ‘eat healthily,’ adding that it’s important to re-evaluate what this actually means.”Many of us like simplicity and will mark foods as ‘good’ and ‘bad,’ when in reality there’s no such a thing,” she said”All foods can feature as a part of a balanced diet. And yes, that includes biscuits, sweets, donuts, and chocolate, as it’s the frequency and portion size of these foods that matters most (not the food itself!).
“Try not to ban the foods that you love from your diet as you will just end up craving them more.”Turoff suggests focusing on one or two healthy habits that you can improve to start with.”Maybe it’s starting the day with a healthy breakfast or getting in a 30 minute home workout,” she said.”Maybe you can focus on increasing your water intake throughout the day or planning your meals. You don’t have to do it all at once!”
In order to change your habits, you’ll need to be more mindful of what they are — reflecting and becoming more self-aware of what my tendencies are has been hugely eye-opening and helpful for me.”Start to look at the patterns around when you’re overeating or eating for comfort,” Turoff recommended.She suggests asking yourselves questions like: “Are you eating consistently throughout the day or are you skipping meals? Are you restricting certain macronutrients such as carbs or fat? When do the cravings start? Is there a pattern to them (for example, you’re fine all day but after dinner you struggle).”If you can understand the patterns of behavior, you’ll be better able to put a strategy in place to change it.”
A post shared by Alix Turoff MS, RD, CPT (@alixturoff_rd)May 21, 2020 at 12:09pm PDT Similarly, it will help to sit down and think about what your goals are, and why.”If your goal is weight loss, why do you want to lose weight? What will change about your life if that happens?” Turoff asked.”If you want to eat healthier, what will that do? How will you feel if you follow through? Do you truly believe you can get to your goal or are you telling yourself it’s never going to happen for you? Focus on creating habits!”If you feel strong in your mindset, it will make you more likely to maintain healthier habits.
On a practical level, you’ve got to make sure you’re fueling your body adequately. Ludlam-Raine explained that this means eating at least three meals a day with a snack in between them if you get hungry (such as nuts and dried fruit, carrots and hummus, cheese and an apple, fruit and yogurt, or even a small chocolate bar), and staying hydrated,”Try to make meals that you enjoy and find comforting too (and make sure to cook more than you need so you can have it as leftovers the next day),” she advised.Eating food you enjoy is the only way you’ll stick to a healthy diet. If you don’t like kale, don’t eat it! There are plenty of other foods you can use to get all the same nutritional benefits.
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“Try to plan out your meals the day before so you have a plan for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks in between (try an afternoon snack and an after dinner snack),” she said.”If you plan your snacks in, you’ll feel less guilt around eating them and you’re less likely to spiral into the ‘all or nothing’ mindset.”Keep active and stay connectedIt’s no secret that exercise is a huge mood-booster, and I always find that when I’m keeping active, it makes me want to make healthier food choices too somehow.It’s awesome to hear that you’ve always been an active person, so make sure you don’t let that priority slide.
“Getting outside is paramount for our mental health and it really can do wonders to our mood too,” said Ludlam-Raine.And although it’s hard to see loved ones right now, there are lots of ways we can stay in touch with friends and family, so do make the most of the technology we have at our fingertips.”Are you also speaking to friends and family regularly?” asked Ludlam-Raine.”Staying connected with loved ones gives us the opportunity to talk about how we are feeling and can help put our troubles into perspective.”
Be kind to yourself and celebrate your winsTake a full picture approach — make small tweaks to look after yourself in various ways, nutrition-wise and other aspects of life, and the upwards spiral will begin.Once you catch yourself on the verge of overeating and stop yourself, be proud of yourself and remember that feeling. It’ll feel good, and you’ll want to do it more. One thing that’s worked for me in the past is writing down my “wins” at the end of the day to help me stay positive, such as leaving the final slice of pizza when I’m full or only having three cookies and not the whole bag.
But know that changing our habits doesn’t happen overnight and progress isn’t linear.
Once you start making healthier decisions, there will still be times where you “mess up.” Only you haven’t messed up. It’s all part of the process and the journey.An expression that’s really helped me is: “I don’t fail. I either succeed, or I learn.” Every time you overeat despite not wanting to, it’s an opportunity to reflect and learn.You’ll get there.Wishing you well,
RachelAs Insider’s senior lifestyle reporter and a self-described fitness fanatic with an Association for Nutrition certified nutrition course under her belt, Rachel Hosie is fully immersed in the wellness scene and is here to answer all your burning questions. Whether you’re struggling to find the motivation to go for a run, confused about light versus heavy weights, or unsure whether you should be worried about how much sugar is in a mango, Rachel is here to give you the no-nonsense answers and advice you need, with strictly no fad diets in sight.Rachel has a wealth of experience covering fitness, nutrition, and wellness, and she has the hottest experts at her fingertips. She regularly speaks to some of the world’s most knowledgeable and renowned personal trainers, dietitians, and coaches, ensuring she’s always up to date with the latest science-backed facts you need to know to live your happiest and healthiest life.Have a question? Ask Rachel at email@example.com or fill out this anonymous form. All questions will be published anonymously.